Fitmark Ambassador Melissa Austin talks about believing in yourself.
I am competing in a figure competition. No sooner had I uttered those seven words, I instantly regretted it. Not because I didn’t want to do it, but because of the look of horror on the faces of those I thought would be my biggest fans.
Silence hung in the air for a few minutes before one of them cracked a smile “You’re kidding, right? You can’t do that!” Then the laughter started. In that moment, my grandiose goal for 2013 was reduced to nothing, a joke among people I considered my friends. Then, I became the joke. I listened to jokes about my weight, the fact that I would have to wear a bikini on stage, and how I never will reach such a stupid goal. With tears in my eyes, I almost nodded and said that I was kidding. But, something inside of me made me stop. As much as I wanted the support of those around me, I wanted the figure competition that much more. In that moment, I was faced with a crucial and life-changing decision.
As humans, we are conditioned to seek support, love and understanding from those around us. We often do things solely for the recognition that comes with it. We tout our accomplishments on social media sites, taking delight in each like or retweet we get. Think about it. How often do you do something just to get the approval of others. Now, think about how many times you haven’t done something that you wanted to do, something that meant the world to you, because people around you didn’t believe in you? Lack of support can be one of the biggest motivation killers out there. Especially when it comes to a health or fitness goal. Oftentimes, the goals we have are pretty big and mean a big lifestyle change. As we embark on that journey, we seek out approval from those around us. Not because we need it, but because subconsciously we are looking for a way out – a reason to quit and someone else to blame when we don’t reach our goals.
There comes a time, though, when you have to decide that what you want is more important to you then the support of those around you. Yes, it’s nice to have that support. But ultimately, it’s your life. You have to live with the choices you make or don’t make. Giving up on a fitness goal because somebody doesn’t support you only brings regret. You look back and wonder, What if? What if I had run that marathon? What if I had lost those 30 pounds? What if I had competed in that figure competition? You make goals for your health and fitness because you want to change. You want better for yourself. So if you initially make the goal personal, why do you let other people dictate whether or not you should actually go through it?
You need to do it for you and only you, because your life isn’t going to change if you don’t put in the work and make the changes. Silence the excuses and show those people who think it’s silly that it’s not. Do it because you deserve more. Learn to accept that not everybody is going to be your cheerleader. And that’s okay. I believe that certain people are put in our lives to challenge us to be better. Don’t give up on something that you want, or believe in that could change your life just because someone else doesn’t accept it. Be your own cheerleader and do it for you. Soon, you’ll find that in doing it for yourself, you have established a whole new support system.
As for that figure competition? I will be taking the stage for the first time August 24 2013. I took my own advice and chose to live my life for me. On my terms. You can do the same.
Always, always do it for you.
Fitmark Ambassador 2013