Fitmark Ambassador Matthew Freeman talks about the monkey bars of life
I was sitting down staring at this photo of my daughter as I so often do. At first glance I obviously notice my beautiful daughter having a blast on the monkey bars. This moment of course brings a huge smile to my face. As I continued to look at the photo, it brought me back to a conversation I had recently with a client. A conversation that ended with this thought: In order to move forward, you have to let go of the old desire to accept the necessity of the moment and what you need to do at this exact moment. You can’t have both; the longer you hold onto two ideas – one old, one new – the longer you will be stuck.
What does that have to do with this photo and fitness? Everything! As individuals we often set our sights on the next bar. As you can see in the photo, my daughter is doing just that. As she grabs the next bar, she has to make a quick decision to reach forward, while letting go of the bar her trailing hand is holding. Failure to let go of the trailing hand would halt all forward momentum. She will either swing straight up, hit the bars ahead and fall on her back or come to a screeching halt, should she refuse to let go and tighten the grip of the trailing hand.
As individuals we often hang onto past performance, past looks, past skills and mostly the past ways we used to reach our goals. This hanging on with the trailing hand stops us from obtaining what the future has in store for us.
The picture represents the instantaneous decisions we get to make. These decisions require the letting go of one idea to accept another. However, I want to insert right here the fact that if we let go of an idea to obtain another, we are not forgetting it. The idea or the memory, just like the bar, still exists. If we get to the end of the new idea and we don’t like the view, we simply grab the bars and head back – like in CrossFit. To let go of the trailing hand is to accept the choice to move toward – a possibility that does not represent a dying of the past or a concept.
In conclusion, I encourage all of you to try new things along your fitness journey. I encourage you not to hold onto two concepts at the same time. It will hinder or halt you completely. Attack your desires with the same huge smile and excitement that my daughter does in this photo. The monkey bars of life await you.
Fitmark Ambassador 2013