Fitmark Athlete Kim Miller shares how to overcome crossroads in your life with the help of positive inspiration
Have you ever stood at a cross road, looking down a path you wanted to take, and as you continued, found that you were met with a tremendous amount of resistance? The people you thought you were closest to, the ones you expected support from; fell away. This happens all the time to people in many different facets of life, and if you value close personal relationships, can be one of the most challenging things to handle. There are many reasons this happens and by recognizing them you can work toward moving past them. Nothing is worth giving up the vision you have for your life.
People Fear Change
People know you are a particular kind of person and a big change threatens that. They may have difficulty accepting. Fitness and weight loss is often a source of contention for people. When you have lived a particular life style for many years, people know you in that sense. When you take on goals to change your lifestyle, it affects them in some ways and may make them uncomfortable. As you begin to see results from your efforts it can create even more friction with some people. You are still the same person at heart, but a part of you does change in the process and others have to accept that in order to maintain the relationship.
It’s Not About You
Sometimes, when people react to the change it has nothing to do with you. It has more to do with an insecurity they might be facing. It’s possible that they too wish they could make a change or chase a dream but fear doing so. People often say “well I wish I could do that but…” We can come up with a million ‘buts’ in life or we can go for it. Some people jump and others don’t. Try and focus on yourself and be an example of possibilities.
You Can’t Please Everyone
For some of us, this can be the hardest thing to accept. There is simply no way to please everyone. Some people will accept who you are and support your decisions; others will not. When you begin to chase goals and do amazing things I guarantee you will be met with resistance. People will say “who do you think you are? What makes you so special? Why do you think this is a good idea?” You might be tempted to back down in an effort to sooth a strained relationship. I urge you not to do that. Believing in your vision, your goals and following your heart can fill you with complete contentment. The recognition that not everyone is going to support you and the ability to persist despite that is tremendously challenging, but once you do it, you are forever transformed. You see life differently, and things begin to make more sense.
The Silver Lining
For all the relationships that become chaotic in the midst of your chasing your goals, new ones surface. It can be shocking when some people closest to you are not supportive or accepting, but if you open your mind to possibilities and invite others in, you are likely to form some of the greatest friendships as a result. Most importantly, if you plan to achieve your goals and dreams, it is imperative that you stop worrying about what everyone thinks and only worry about what you think. You need to surround yourself with the people who appreciate the person you’ve become. You need to believe in you at all costs. Trust the voice in your head that says “just try.” Believe in the people that believe in you.
Fitmark Athlete 2013