Many of my coworkers have caught onto my health living & active lifestyle. I have been at a Structural engineering firm in Pasadena for almost 2 months now. And since my start date, I have only gone out for lunch and participated in a company-holiday celebration a total of 3 times. Granted, I’ve been in prep for much of this time, but now I am remaining in a less-restricted but clean regimen and prefer to save my lunch money by bringing in my own food. It’s not perfect, but I am working on finding a balanced off-season.
Every day one coworker in particular asks me to join him and the work crew for lunch, and almost sneers (in a harmless-sarcastic way) at me because he already knows that there’s a 95% chance that I brought my own.
Well, this is the same coworker that complained to me a two weeks ago before I left for the Pittsburgh Pro—my second IFBB Bikini Pro Show. He declared, “My wife is too lazy, always wants to sleep in, and never wants to do anything active with me!” He was active back in college, which he describes as when he was most fit. But now, he’s lost sight of the extracurricular activities he used to participate in, and only finds himself “in shape” a few months out of the year.
Our discussion continued onto discipline, and how he lacks the motivation that he believes I have.
I told him—“I am not always motivated! Believe me. Sometimes it’s hard.” I didn’t go into much detail but I was envisioning in my head: my early morning workouts, sometimes additional workouts after a 9 hour work day, and even trips during my lunch break. My motivation derives from wanting to be better each time I step on stage, in addition to challenging myself with high standards.
He replied, “I want to get back into shape but I have to do something other than just lifting weights. It’s too static for me. I have no motivation. My wife doesn’t want to do anything.”
We left the conversation at this: make a goal. And he agreed!
It was a great discussion, and I appreciate him disclosing this personal info with me. But what’s the next step? I must mind my manners. I would love to see him in more motivated about staying active and changing some of his habits but I cannot force him to do so! You can’t force the way you live upon others. It’s not right. So what can I do? I can share tips here and there, mention something every so often that might spark some inspiration, or even invite him (and other coworkers) to join a workout.
I believe it comes down to this: my presence and respectful support may be enough to get the ball rolling. We didn’t all get to where we are by starting in the same place!
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Fitmark Ambassador 2013