It seems to be the season for many fitness challenges. These range from obstacle courses, 5ks, Lazy man triathlons, and other events where you work out and train for points. I have heard the “my girlfriend/wife/significant other is making me do this” line… a lot. I am both ok and dismayed by this.
I was dismayed because we’re all adults or practicing to be adults one day. That comes with the aptitude to make decisions on our own. While you may be compelled to act a certain way, you do have a choice. So why blame someone else? That’s irresponsible. Perhaps the consequences of making the other choice didn’t side with you well, but that was your choice. No need to blame someone else for your own actions.
However, I’m not oblivious to the fact there is some degree of peace keeping involved in maintaining a good relationship. We make choices we do not like because we want to support those close to us. What better way to understand and support someone than joining that person in his or her fitness challenge? Whether it is logging miles or trying new activities, you will gain an appreciation of that person’s struggles and success. Who knows, you might end up with some positive results yourself.
To the people that are on the receiving end of this blame game, I challenge you to enjoy the fact someone is making an attempt to be supportive and understanding. It may require listening to some complaints, but is it that hard to reciprocate the intent? To the blame givers, I thank you and ask you to share your difficulties with the other person so it becomes less of a one sided event and more of an exchange of what gets you two through the rough times of fitness challenges. Complain less, share more. Whatever challenge you’re participating in this season, consider the shut up and buddy up method.
Sunny Norwood Buck
Fitmark Ambassador 2013